Managing Relationships
Courtesy: Speaking Tree
People have more emotional problems than physical problems in their life. This is because we live more with our mind than our body. Our mind affects us in several ways. Hence, it is necessary to understand our mind.
From the time we are born until our last breath, we are bound in a slew of relationships. If we put our lives under a scanner, we will realize that most of the times we face emotional turmoil in our close relationships. Relations are never devoid of reactions. Where there are no relations, there are hardly any reactions. What is the reason behind ‘reactions’ in ‘relations’? We may notice that problems with people who are not related to us, last for a very short period. However, if problem occurs with our near and dear ones, it lasts longer and we remain under its impact for a long time. Why is it so? When a stranger affects our senses, it is bearable. But, when someone close to us does something, our heart is affected, we are hurt! Relations are born out of affection, they are nurtured by love and warmth.But, What is this affection? Who is affected the most? People with more affection or less affection... most will agree that those who hold more affection for others, often ‘get hurt’ easily… whereas, those who are less affectionate towards others, do not get hurt so easily. Thus, ‘affection’ which should be a cause of happiness, often becomes the cause of sorrow.
What is the solution to this problem?
Parmatma Mahavir has given an apt solution – ‘Mittime sawwa bhuesu, Aegome Saasaoappa’Be Friends with all, with awareness that the soul is alone.
Suppose you are travelling in a train and when you arrive at the destination, someone asks you, “How many passengers were there with you?” – What will be your answer? “Only Me”. What about the other passengers in the train? Were they not with you? In the entire journey, you sat, ate, rested and talked together. When your station came, you alighted. Now, if someone asks you – ‘Are you alone or together’ Why do you say that I came alone? This is because even though everyone was travelling together, you knew that they did not belong to you. You may have shown affection towards them, but knew that no one was related to you. Similarly, when the station of death arrives in our life, Parmatma will ask, “How many?” and you will say “Only me”. People and relatives around you are like the passengers of the train. Today, you may be in each others company, but when your destination arrives, the station of death, you will be alone. None of your relations will come by, even the people who are closest to you will move on after a while. This is because neither do you belong to anyone nor does anyone belong to you. So be friends with all, but remember that no one is yours. This preaching of our revered Parmatma should become our ‘Art of Living!’
Courtesy: Speaking Tree
People have more emotional problems than physical problems in their life. This is because we live more with our mind than our body. Our mind affects us in several ways. Hence, it is necessary to understand our mind.
From the time we are born until our last breath, we are bound in a slew of relationships. If we put our lives under a scanner, we will realize that most of the times we face emotional turmoil in our close relationships. Relations are never devoid of reactions. Where there are no relations, there are hardly any reactions. What is the reason behind ‘reactions’ in ‘relations’? We may notice that problems with people who are not related to us, last for a very short period. However, if problem occurs with our near and dear ones, it lasts longer and we remain under its impact for a long time. Why is it so? When a stranger affects our senses, it is bearable. But, when someone close to us does something, our heart is affected, we are hurt! Relations are born out of affection, they are nurtured by love and warmth.But, What is this affection? Who is affected the most? People with more affection or less affection... most will agree that those who hold more affection for others, often ‘get hurt’ easily… whereas, those who are less affectionate towards others, do not get hurt so easily. Thus, ‘affection’ which should be a cause of happiness, often becomes the cause of sorrow.
What is the solution to this problem?
Parmatma Mahavir has given an apt solution – ‘Mittime sawwa bhuesu, Aegome Saasaoappa’Be Friends with all, with awareness that the soul is alone.
Suppose you are travelling in a train and when you arrive at the destination, someone asks you, “How many passengers were there with you?” – What will be your answer? “Only Me”. What about the other passengers in the train? Were they not with you? In the entire journey, you sat, ate, rested and talked together. When your station came, you alighted. Now, if someone asks you – ‘Are you alone or together’ Why do you say that I came alone? This is because even though everyone was travelling together, you knew that they did not belong to you. You may have shown affection towards them, but knew that no one was related to you. Similarly, when the station of death arrives in our life, Parmatma will ask, “How many?” and you will say “Only me”. People and relatives around you are like the passengers of the train. Today, you may be in each others company, but when your destination arrives, the station of death, you will be alone. None of your relations will come by, even the people who are closest to you will move on after a while. This is because neither do you belong to anyone nor does anyone belong to you. So be friends with all, but remember that no one is yours. This preaching of our revered Parmatma should become our ‘Art of Living!’
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